The Easiest Thing I’ve Ever Done…

I used to believe that if something was good, it had to be hard.

That struggle was proof of its value. That sacrifice was the prerequisite for anything meaningful. That willpower was the only path to worthiness.

And in a lot of ways, that belief served me.

It got me through West Point. It took me to the NFL. It helped me push through pain when quitting wasn’t an option.

But then I met Kara.

And suddenly—something I never expected happened.

I fell in love. Easily. Effortlessly. Undeniably.

No forcing. No proving. No performance.

Just presence.

It was the most natural thing I’ve ever experienced. And it cracked something wide open in me.

Because for the first time, I began to question the story I had lived by for so long...

That only the things I fought for could be good. That ease was suspicious. That love, like everything else, had to be earned.

But Kara didn’t ask me to earn anything. She just met me. Saw me. Loved me. And something in me softened.

Since that day, something else has softened, too...My understanding of how life works.

Yes—hard work matters. Yes—discipline is important. Yes—perseverance and grit are all part of the process.

But there’s another side of life I had ignored. A life that doesn’t need to be built by willpower alone. But rather, a life that’s waiting to meet you, not be conquered by you.

What I’ve learned from falling in love is this...

Goodness is always trying to find us. It’s already on the way. But most of us are too busy chasing, fixing, striving, and forcing…to ever make space to receive it.

And receiving? It’s an entirely different way of living.

👉🏻 It’s letting go of the tight grip.
👉🏻 It’s trusting what’s unfolding, even when you don’t understand it.
👉🏻 It’s slowing down enough to actually feel your life.
👉🏻 It’s being open to joy without waiting for the other shoe to drop.
👉🏻 It's choosing yourself—knowing you are fully worth it all.

Somewhere along the way, we confused earning love with being worthy of love. But the truth is—love, goodness, and beauty often come not when we fight for them, but when we let them in.

That’s the kind of life I want now.

One built not just on how hard I can work, but on how deeply I can receive.

Because what I'm realizing time and time again is that the things we want the most—love, connection, inner peace, even purpose—aren’t found on the other side of trying harder but are already here, quietly waiting for us to create the space to receive them.

As always, I’m rooting for you. We’re in this together.