The Best Things In Life Are Allowed…Not Forced.

My wife had been laboring at home for over 60 hours.

By the time we got to the hospital, exhaustion was an understatement. Kara was depleted, but determined.

When the time came for Kara to start to push, the doctor looked up at her and said something that I haven’t stopped thinking about since:

"The best births are the ones that are allowed—not forced."

Something in me cracked open when I heard that. Because this isn’t just about giving birth to a new child—it’s about life.

Life is always inviting us into something more expansive, more real, and more satisfying. It’s like it’s constantly asking us to give birth to something new.

A deeper way of being. A truer version of ourselves. A calling we can feel in our bones.

But how often do we try to force it?

How often do we white-knuckle our way through growth, convinced that if we just push harder, do more, figure it out faster, we’ll finally get where we’re meant to be?

I’ve done this more times than I can count.

👉🏻 I’ve tried to force clarity when life was inviting me into the mystery.
👉🏻 I’ve tried to force success when life was calling me to alignment.
👉🏻 I’ve tried to force healing when life was asking me to surrender.

And every time, I’ve learned the same lesson: When we force what’s meant to be allowed, we create unnecessary suffering.

Maybe you’ve felt it, too.

👉🏻 The frustration of trying to make something happen on your timeline instead of trusting the process.
👉🏻 The exhaustion of running ahead when life is asking you to slow down.
👉🏻 The fear that if you don’t push harder, you’ll be left behind.

But what if the thing you want most—the breakthrough, the expansion, the next step—isn’t something you have to make happen?

What if it’s something you have to allow?

What if life is already at work in ways you can’t see?

Yes, what if your job isn’t to force the expansion but to create the conditions where it can emerge?

Just like birth, real transformation happens when we surrender to the rhythm of life rather than trying to control it.

It’s not passive—it’s deeply engaged. It requires trust, patience, and a willingness to work with life instead of against it.

I don’t know what you’re trying to force right now.

But if you feel like you’re pushing and pushing and getting nowhere, maybe it’s time to ask a different question:

"What would happen if I allowed this instead?"

Because the best things in life—the most meaningful, the most beautiful, the most lasting—aren’t forced.

They’re allowed.

And maybe, just maybe, that’s all you need to do right now.

As always, I’m rooting for you. We’re in this together.