The Space Between Who You Are and Who You’re Becoming

There was a moment in my life—many moments, actually—when I stood at the edge of something new, knowing deep down that what had brought me here wouldn’t take me any further.

Walking away from the NFL was one of those moments.

I had spent years defining myself by my performance.

My worth was wrapped in my ability to be the best, to push through, to meet every expectation.

And then suddenly, I was faced with the terrifying realization that none of it was enough.

The dream I had worked so hard for no longer fit, but stepping into the unknown?

That felt like free-falling.

Letting go isn’t just about releasing the past—it’s about grieving the version of yourself that you once believed you needed to be.

And grief is messy.

It doesn’t come with a clear roadmap or a set timeline. It sneaks up on you in the quiet moments, in the unexpected waves of nostalgia, in the questions that ask, Who am I if I’m not this anymore?

But here’s what I’ve learned...

Every time I’ve had the courage to release what no longer serves me—whether it’s an identity, a belief, or a way of being—I’ve made room for something far greater.

I won’t lie to you.

The in-between space is uncomfortable. It will ask you to trust in what you cannot yet see.

But I promise you, the best parts of your life are not behind you.

So, I’ll ask you: What are you holding onto that you know deep down it’s time to release?

Maybe it’s an old definition of success. Maybe it’s a relationship that no longer aligns. Maybe it’s the belief that you have to be perfect to be worthy.

Whatever it is, I hope you’ll give yourself permission to let go.

Not because it’s easy.

But because it’s the only way to make space for the life that’s waiting for you.

As always, I’m rooting for you. We’re in this together.