The Space Between No Longer and Not Yet

Ever felt like you’re standing in a doorway—one chapter behind you, and the next just out of reach?

That in-between space, where you’re no longer where you used to be but haven’t yet stepped into what’s next, is called liminal space.

From the Latin limen, meaning “threshold,” it’s like pausing in a doorway, right before crossing from one room into another.

It’s a place rich with potential, yet often uncomfortable—and profoundly vulnerable.

When we’re in this season of in-between, we often feel an intense urge to “figure it out,” to make something happen, to just move on.

Sometimes, the tension becomes so uncomfortable that we lean into coping mechanisms that don’t serve us.

I’ve been there. 🙋🏻‍♂️

When I left the NFL, I found myself exactly in this place. My entire identity had been wrapped up in my performance, and suddenly, it was gone.

I didn’t have a vision for what came next, and that groundlessness was unsettling. So I spent that season in Canada, far from the noise of my former life, working quietly.

With the rush of the next goal out of the way, I finally saw parts of myself I had overlooked.

That pause I hadn’t planned on? It ended up being the very thing that allowed me to grow in ways I never expected.

Liminal spaces appear in our lives more often than we think.

Sometimes they’re big life changes, like starting a new job or moving to a new city.

Other times, they’re quieter moments: maybe the passion for your work has faded, and the next spark hasn’t arrived

Or perhaps you’re navigating changes in a relationship where you or your loved one is evolving into someone new, and you're not quite connecting like you used to.

Regardless, these in-between spaces strip away the familiar and invite us to see what’s beneath the surface—old fears, outdated beliefs, self-criticism hiding behind our busyness.

These in-between spaces are our invitations to expand within.

But, we have a choice to make.

We can try to rush through, searching for control and certainty. Or we can lean into the unknown and let it shape us.

So if you’re feeling stuck in the in-between—whether it’s a job, a relationship, or just a season that feels undefined—take a deep breath.

Let the discomfort reveal its lessons. Don’t rush through the threshold; let it transform you.

This is how we become not just better leaders—but better people.

As always, I’m rooting for you. We’re in this together.